Trying to not be a nagging parent

Our family has weekly family meetings, which are good for coordination and discussing issues.

The issue tonight was chores. Albert and I really don’t want to be nagging parents, always asking the kids to do their chores, which I feel like I have done this week now that the kids are done with school.

So, we laid out all their weekly chores and let them pick which day they would have them done.

  • The deal is that by the time they go to sleep, the chore must be done.
  • If not, Daniel loses one video game the next day. (Each day he can play 2 video games, each one about half an hour long.)
  • If Megan doesn’t, she loses $1 from her allowance. Since she carefully saves her money because she likes to shop, this is sufficient incentive.
  • If the kids do all the chores on time by the end of the week, Daniel gets an extra video game and Megan gets an extra dollar. In some sense it doesn’t feel like it’s a lot, but since these are chores they are supposed to do and they haven’t gotten any rewards so far, it is a little bit of a bonus for their doing chores on time.

Daniel is quite a law-abiding citizen and highly efficient so he said he will have no problem keeping up. Megan requested that I make a pretty chart of the chores so she would remember. So I threw together a flyer — not the best design because I was trying to get it done quickly, but I went for bright colors and Megan loved it.

The chores are organized by day, with little circles showing who does what. The green text gives the checklist details of what needs to be done.

It worked great tonight — didn’t have to ask the kids once to do dishes and they went and did it themselves! Megan said, “I’m glad you don’t want to be nagging parents.” I think this is a win-win for everyone!

A Yee

Angela Yee is a professional designer (graphic design, stage design, interior design — and teaches leadership skills at

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