Family dinner personality discussion

Tuesday is our family dinner night and it’s always a blast. Tonight our discussion was on personalities. I found a site that described Meyers-Briggs personalities — and it was scary (and highly amusing) how accurate it was!

I found a website that goes over the different profiles. Each profile listed characteristics as well as how that person works and relates to other people.

Interestingly, our entire family is N’s (Intuitives) and J’s (Judging).

Extrovert/Introvert scale:

  • Daniel: Stronger extrovert but not totally extreme.
  • Me: Right down the middle but leaning towards extrovert side.
  • Megan: Close to middle but more on the introvert side.
  • Albert: Stronger introvert but not totally extreme.

Thinking/Feeling scale:

  • Daniel: Strong thinker
  • Albert: Thinker but good at feelings too
  • Me: Feeler but good at thinking too
  • Megan: Strong feeler

So, our overall profiles are:

  • Albert: INTJ
  • Daniel: ENTJ
  • Me: ENFJ (and sometimes INFJ)
  • Megan: INFJ

Maybe that’s why our family doesn’t have very much conflict… we actually are similar in many ways!

It was very funny reading the descriptions as they were pretty much dead on for us. For example:

Albert (INTJ)

  • One of the hobbies listed was computers and video games.
  • It said: “INTJs can be almost scientific in choosing a mate and make devoted partners once they have found a match that fits their rigorous list of requirements.” Albert pumped his fist and said, “Yes! My wife drives stick!” (This was actually on his list of someone he would want to marry — a requirement to drive stick shift!)
  • “As parents, INFJs are devoted and loving. They tend to form strong bonds with their children and are very closely tuned in to their emotional states.” That’s my husband! More aware of my kids’ feelings than I am!

Megan (INFJ)

  • “INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity and a drive to help others realize their potential.” As soon as I read that, Megan said, “I did that today!” She encouraged a discouraged friend.
  • “Popular hobbies for the INFJ include writing, art appreciation, cultural events, reading, socializing in small, intimate settings, and playing or listening to music.” We laughed so much — this is totally Megan!

Me (ENFJ)

  • “ENFJs are idealist organizers, driven to implement their vision of what is best for humanity.” Uh… I guess that’s why I ended up in ministry!
  • “Popular hobbies for the ENFJ include organizing social events, reading, the arts, museums, storytelling, listening to music, writing, and gourmet cooking.” As soon as my family heard the first one, they all bust out laughing. My former jobs have been event coordinator, worship/music coordinator, published author, and graphic designer. Nix the gourmet cooking though. (Although I hardly ever cook the same recipe twice — if I cook, I cook a new recipe. I suppose this could be a form of non-standard cooking.)

Daniel (ENTJ)

  • “They excel at logical reasoning and are usually articulate and quick-witted.” Yup, that’s my son!
  • “When there are flaws in a system, the ENTJ sees them, and enjoys the process of discovering and implementing a better way.” Daniel is always talking about ways to improve efficiency.
  • What was fascinating is that I have been baffled by Daniel’s lack of interest in hobbies (because I have too many!). This was very enlightening: “Popular hobbies for ENTJs include taking leadership positions in community groups, attending social gatherings or sporting events, and playing competitive sports. Because ENTJs are so often focused on their careers, they may have few interests outside of work, or they may participate in leisure activities that also help to further their careers.” Daniel is doing all these things. I guess I just never thought of them as hobbies!

It was very fun to look at all these profiles and discuss how God has made us all differently.

A Yee

Angela Yee is a professional designer (graphic design, stage design, interior design — angelayeedesign.com) and teaches leadership skills at strategysketchnotes.com.

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